10 basic principles for building true self-confidence

In today's blog, we will briefly say something about self-confidence and the ten basic principles that you should understand and apply in practice to achieve and maintain lasting self-confidence. There is real or real self-confidence and false self-confidence.

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FALSE AND TRUE SELF-CONFIDENCE?

False self-confidence is based on the myth that you are worth as much as you are valuable, desirable, good, loved, successful, likable to others or those you think are important, valuable, or even better than you. Most people believe in this concept of self-confidence and it is followed when someone asks them about their self-confidence. It is characteristic of false self-confidence that other people are necessary with whom we would compare ourselves to determine how much "self-confidence" we have. So, for false self-confidence, we need two things, and that is crossing with others and the criteria based on which we compare ourselves.

Contrary to this false self-confidence that lies on the wrong criteria, there is a real authentic self-confidence that is not based in the least on the opinion of other people. True self-confidence is entirely your thing. It represents the relationship you have with yourself. You will feel the way you treat yourself. Everyone has this healthy concept of self-confidence, however, over time they have adopted a harmful concept of false self-confidence that is based on comparison with others. If we believe in this concept of false self-confidence, we will block our natural ability to possess that real, lasting, and real self-confidence. True self-confidence is not changeable, it does not depend on other people or circumstances, it is not based on illusions about one's strength or weakness, nor does it depend on feelings such as happiness and euphoria or shame and fear. True self-confidence refers to what attitude you have towards yourself. A person who has true self-confidence feels calm and complete. He is not in any conflict with himself nor does he strive to fascinate anyone.

10 BASIC PRINCIPLES FOR TRUE SELF - CONFIDENCE

I suggest that you pay maximum attention to these principles if you want to build true self-confidence because self-confidence is a consequence of your attitude towards yourself, regardless of your past, others, personality traits, your flaws, or virtues.

1. DO NOT COMPARE WITH OTHERS - instead of wasting time comparing yourself to other people, you better deal with comparing your behavior with your previous behavior if it is useful and if something useful can be learned from it.

2. YOU DON'T NEED THE APPROVALS OF OTHERS - instead of relying on others, rely on yourself and your resources, first try to do everything you can on your own, learn to learn, be active and solve problems on your own. Let’s face it, there’s nothing wrong with asking others for help, but you don’t need to constantly rely on the opinions of others because that way you leave them the power you have and carry within you.

3. DON'T GIVE UP YOUR WISHES IF YOU DON'T HAVE TO - do whatever it takes to fulfill and fulfill your desires.

4. GIVE UP WISHES YOU CAN'T FULFILL - if you have a problem with your big wishes, ask yourself two questions: "Is what I want realistic? Is the fulfillment of this wish necessary for me to be happy and fulfilled? ”This does not mean that you should give up your wishes so easily, but that your emotional state should not depend on your wishes.

5. DO NOT IDENTIFY YOUR THOUGHTS, WISHES, EMOTIONS, PAST, AND LIFE EXPERIENCE - Always be aware of your borrowing here and now no matter what mental content you are experiencing at this moment or what you are currently feeling because you are neither your thoughts nor your emotions and especially not your desires or your experience.

6. DO NOT EVALUATE YOURSELF BASED ON ANY CRITERIA - evaluate yourself only based on your behavior and actions and try to improve them every day.

7. DO NOT BE RIGID - do not be rigid, be flexible and ready to change your behavior, habits, and understanding depending on the requirements of the environment and the goals you have set for yourself.

8. DO NOT RESIST NEGATIVE FEELINGS - do not resist unpleasant emotions but accept them as such, because these are learned reactions from childhood that you repeat in adulthood. Learn to accept them but don’t analyze them or get into them. Emotions are just emotions and you are the ones who control them, not you. Find an article on this blog that talks about how to manage your thoughts and emotions.

9. DO NOT FORCE YOURSELF OR OTHERS IN ANY WAY - accept the fact that we are all creators of our happiness and that each of us has his path to follow. It is not up to us to direct or influence others. Also, don't force yourself on anything unless it resonates with you.

10. TAKE A HUNDRED PERCENT OF RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE - accept responsibility for yourself and your life, but do not use it to blame yourself for the mistakes of the past, but learn from them to be better the next day.

HOW DOES IT FEEL TO HAVE REAL SELF-CONFIDENCE?

You probably think that you will feel euphoric, full of yourself, or better than others. As we have said, it is a false self-confidence and an illusion that leads to a state of frustration and disappointment. True self-confidence will evoke a feeling of peace and freedom in you. Your life will flow easily, although beautiful and less beautiful things will happen in your life, you will remain collected, calm, and full of faith in yourself and life. It represents a person full of self-confidence.

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