How to overcome obsessive thoughts in three simple steps

Every negative obsessive thought is characterized by its persistence, persistence, and constant appearance against our will. These thoughts strongly affect a person's mood, disturb his concentration, demotivate him and give him the feeling that he has no control over himself. In addition to being negative in content, they also act uncontrollably the more a person struggles with them, which leads to even greater frustration.

WHAT IS THE REASON WHY OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS ARE SO PERSISTENT?

There are two reasons why these thoughts are so strenuous. The first reason is that these thoughts are "colored" by negative affects (emotion), such as anger, rage, fear, guilt, and the like. If these thoughts were not supported by any of these emotions, they would slowly pass through our minds, and we would not even pay attention to them. Emotions are the ones that give them strength and perseverance that a person does not know how to deal with.

The second reason is our attention. Because of the persistence and discomfort that these thoughts provide, a person tends to constantly pay attention to them and analyze them or to fight them by replacing them with positive thoughts or suppressing them which additionally feeds them and gives them power and strength. Without paying conscious attention to these thoughts, they will begin to lose strength and power, lose weight, fade, and appear less frequently, until they are completely lost. When you learn the technique that I will present to you below, you will learn to deal with these obsessive negative scary thoughts.

TECHNIQUE FOR OVERCOMING NEGATIVE OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS IN THREE STEPS

The first step is to recognize negative obsessive thoughts and distinguish between what is happening in our minds and what is happening in reality. You must first understand that thoughts are just that, thoughts, just like any other. Therefore, they have no supremacy, they are not realistic and they cannot influence you if you do not allow them to do so. Negative obsessive thoughts are just the fruit of our imagination, imagining an outcome that does not happen now and here. Everything that does not happen in our reality is the fruit of our imagination and the product of our mind. Imagination, no matter how close or far from our real reality, is just an imagination, a humorous construction of our mind. It is up to you whether you will take these imaginations seriously and treat them as facts. Thoughts are just mental events in our minds, not real facts. When you differentiate between your imaginary thoughts and reality, you will learn not to take your negative obsessive thoughts literally. The better question is why does our mind create these negative thoughts at all? This is due to the non-integrated unpleasant emotions we are fighting against. Every negative thought brings with it some unpleasant emotion, which is the basic reason why these thoughts exist at all. These feelings force your mind to create all those negative thoughts to integrate those accumulated emotions. What to do with those emotions? Simply give up fighting them and let them go.

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WITH NEGATIVE OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS?

The second step consists of the fact that it is necessary to break that chain of negative thoughts. Wondering how to do it? Just don't resist them but keep them there and let them go. Do not analyze them and do not fight with them. Don't try to stop them, just don't give them your attention. Do not delve into them and they will start to fade and eventually disappear completely. Just understand that it is a product of your mind, a mental projection consisting of images, words, or sounds. It is a film that is not to your taste and to which you do not want to pay attention. Let the movie go and without active attention, it will not affect your mood. You have complete control over whether you watch that movie or not, whether you register and analyze those thoughts or you just state them and release them. You have no control over the content of that film but you have direct control over the decision of whether to watch it or not.

BECOME AWARE OF THE PRESENT MOMENT

The third step is to become aware of the present moment. Let us remind ourselves that negative thoughts are only the fruit of our minds and do not refer to reality. Reality represents the present moment, what is now and here. Instead of delving into negative thoughts, consciously delve into the present moment. Notice what's happening right now and here. Look around you, see where you are. What do you see? What do you hear? What's around you? What colors are around you? What are you just touching? Focus on breathing because it is a constant action that is happening right now, be aware of your inhale and exhale without any condemnation or analysis. Give yourself time to let go of negative thoughts and unpleasant feelings. Don't rush them and don't fight them, just let them go without your conscious attention. Be aware of the present moment. Do something that will require your full concentration and focus, which will further help you distance yourself from negative thoughts. When you manage to make this conscious separation and non-identification with negative thoughts, they will go away on their own together with the unpleasant feeling.

This technique is practiced, you have to be consistent and use it constantly to help. It's not a magic wand. It requires your commitment. When you automate it, it will be much easier for you.

Comments

Who are the highly sensitive people?

High sensitivity is a term that refers to those people whose nervous system is strengthened sensitive to emotional, social, and physical stimuli, and their cognitive processing very deeply. These are the people who will often characterize the environment as too sensitive, too emotional, as people who think too much, experience problems and emotions too intensely other people, and the like. When labeled like this, they often develop the belief that something is wrong with them. However, it is important to point out that high sensitivity in itself is not seen as a disorder as a permanent personality structure that exists on average in every fifth person. If it becomes something that significantly interferes with the person's functioning, it is through psychotherapy works on acquiring coping skills with stress, overemphasized emotions, breaking the chain of excessive thinking and the like. It is also very important that the highly sensitive person is alone she taught herself to ac...

How words affect the quality of our lives

Your spoken words are a tool that has the power to shape your life. You need to know that the art of speech is very important, although most people ignore this and do not pay attention to the weight of the spoken words. Many are not aware that every word spoken has enormous power over us. If you are consciously observing your words as you speak, you will see the connection between what you say and what you experience in your life. Whether we are talking to someone or having a monologue, we mostly say what we think, but we also say those words that represent a negative context. Very few are those who are aware of every word they say to themselves or others. Very often we are self-critical towards ourselves or others, we mostly speak in a negative context, through irony or sarcasm, or we speak with a dose of disrespect both to ourselves and to others. You must know that your subconscious does not know how to distinguish reality from inner "reality" (imagination), but it liste...

How to decalcify the pineal gland - a natural way to open your Third Eye

Due to the increasing degradation of spiritual purity in people and the increasing focus on materialism, our third eye has become inactive. The third eye or pineal gland is atrophied and calcified in most people, and in this post, we will cover the topic of how to cleanse our third eye and how to restore that unlimited spiritual power we possess! WHAT IS THE THIRD EYE? Many philosophers, sages, and spiritual teachers have associated the pineal gland with the third eye, whose perception is not obscured or limited by physical feelings. Rene Descartes, a French philosopher, emphasized in his books the importance of the pineal gland, calling it the "center of the soul" or part of the body where our soul resides. The third eye is directly connected to the sixth chakra and the pineal gland. Some scientists have found that the pineal gland is created in the fetus 49 days after conception. Tibetan Buddhists said in the "Tibetan Book of the Dead" that it takes just as long...

Morning routines of successful people

You must have heard the saying "whoever gets up early, grabs two fortunes". However, if you are an early riser who supports the routines listed below, you will certainly improve your success, both in business and in private life. "Every morning we have 2 hours during which our mental ability is very high, so it is a good time to upgrade our being, so to speak. Unfortunately, many people waste that time on the wrong things. ” - Dan Ariel - (Professor from Duke University) Creating morning routines that will suit you is crucial to maintaining a high level of productivity that will keep you going throughout the day. Below we list some of the morning routines practiced by successful people that you can add to your start of the day, and thus increase your productivity. 1. WAKING UP EARLY IN THE MORNING Successful people know that time is a very precious commodity. Since they know that they have a lot of obligations at work (phone calls, meetings, conversations with clients,...

13 ways to naturally increase your energy during the day

Do you often run out of energy at work in the middle of working hours? Don't you want to go to training this time too because you are too tired and tired of constantly pouring yourself a coffee and other energy drinks to regain energy? Energy can be maintained in a natural and very simple way during the day, and we talk about these methods below. Here are some natural ways to stay full of energy throughout the day without resorting to some unhealthy options like coffee or refined sugar. 1. USE VITAMIN B12 It is known that this vitamin provides energy, and you can read about its benefits on the Internet so that we do not take up a lot of space here. It is crucial for your energy throughout the day, as well as for the general condition of your body. 2. DRINK WATER! The most common cause of fatigue is dehydration. If you are not hydrated enough, your blood volume may drop, and your body must work harder to bring oxygen and nutrients to the cells. If you feel tired, it may be a sign ...

How to increase your memory with these simple tips

What kind of memory power you will have depends on the health and vitality of your brain. Whether you are a student and studying for exams, whether you are a professional or a businessman who needs improvement in the field of memory to perform his tasks or jobs more efficiently, or whether you are an elderly person who wants to keep his memory at bay despite aging, there are many things you can do for yourself to improve your memory. Although many claims that we cannot teach the "old dog" new tricks, this is not the case with our brains. The human brain has an extraordinary ability to change and adapt, regardless of age. This feature of our brain is called NEUROPLASTICITY . With the right stimulation, our brain can change existing connections and adapt to the change imposed on it, and thus improve its cognitive abilities, and the ability to absorb new information very easily. # 1 TIP: DO NOT SKIP DREAM AND TRAINING Just as athletes rely on healthy diets and sleep to achieve...

Ego - your best friend or biggest enemy?

Do you often compare yourself with others? Do you often underestimate others? Do you often praise others while belittling yourself? The only person you need to compare yourself to is with yourself from yesterday. EGO in Latin means "I". The ego represents your identity, what you think you are. The ego is a filter through which we observe ourselves, our environment, and the people around us. The ego is a set of experiences from the past, and its function is to help us survive. If it is in a healthy measure, it has a positive function, and that is to correct our mistakes, to behave appropriately to the circumstances, and more. When our ego is hurt, we become more aware of our environment, we become hypersensitive, nervous, and frustrated. We become self-critical, pessimistic, frustrated, dissatisfied with ourselves, unfulfilled, etc. Every person has an ego and it is impossible to "kill" it, but it is very important to ask yourself whether you control the ego, or th...

5 Powerful techniques to increase productivity

Nowadays, at the time of this global pandemic, many were obliged to work from home and to organize themselves around their daily duties. This has its good side, you do not waste time on leaving and coming from work, you work from the comfort of your home, you work in comfortable clothes, you schedule your working hours yourself, etc. In addition to all these benefits, many have experienced the other side of the coin, which requires self-discipline to be, even outside the work atmosphere, very productive. Because of that, many faced burnout because they did not know how to adequately manage their time. Many experts in the field of psychology and personal development have devised a series of techniques that can help you achieve higher productivity, no matter where you work from. All these techniques can help you in this newly created global situation to efficiently perform your business tasks. First of all, you must determine the time you will set aside for work without any distrac...

10 key qualities that every leader should have

Leadership is a skill that, like all other business skills, is learned and improved. In addition to being used in business circumstances, leadership is also used in social, family, political, sports, and other circumstances. In the following, we will list ten traits that are crucial for each leader. 1. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION - We as leaders, or managers in a business environment, need to know how to communicate well with our clients, employees, associates, and others. Why is that so? When we put together an idea in our head about how this job should be done, what it should look like, what it should contain, and so on, we need to know how to properly convey it to our associates and clients so that they would not be misunderstood completely. Communication is a skill that is learned and all good leaders must possess good communication skills to succeed on their path. I suggest the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie, a great book that will teach y...

Do you have problems with overthinking?

EXCESSIVE THINKING IS MAINLY CONCERNED BY ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION As part of anxiety disorders and depressive states, a very common occurrence is excessive thinking, which can also be an integral part of unhealthy feelings such as jealousy, anger, guilt, and others. Excessive thinking in itself can lead to aggravation or maintenance of these conditions. Many who have this disorder justify it by equating it with being able to look at things from multiple perspectives and prepare to face potential negative outcomes. In reality, it's not really like that. The outcome mostly comes down to the fact that, from what we have been thinking about so much, it has never and will never happen and it has taken a lot of our time, energy, mental and physical strength. People equate excessive thinking with problem-solving, but there is a difference. The problem to be solved is based on seeing the advantages and disadvantages of possible options, and making the best decision based on the conclusion...

Success Mentor

Search This Blog