Success Mentor

  In today's blog, we will briefly say something about self-confidence and the ten basic principles that you should understand and apply in practice to achieve and maintain lasting self-confidence. There is real or real self-confidence and false self-confidence. WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FALSE AND TRUE SELF-CONFIDENCE? False self-confidence is based on the myth that you are worth as much as you are valuable, desirable, good, loved, successful, likable to others or those you think are important, valuable, or even better than you. Most people believe in this concept of self-confidence and it is followed when someone asks them about their self-confidence. It is characteristic of false self-confidence that other people are necessary with whom we would compare ourselves to determine how much "self-confidence" we have. So, for false self-confidence, we need two things, and that is crossing with others and the criteria based on which we compare ourselves. Contrary to this f...

"When he is hit by a feeling of pain, an ignorant person feels two pains, physical and mental. But a sage, when he is struck by a feeling of pain, feels only one pain, physical, and mental." - Buddha - Suffering and pain are two indispensable emotions in the human experience. Many equate these two experiences, although they are different. In addition to the fact that these emotions are closely related, there is still a difference between them. The definition of pain is the physical discomfort that the body feels when we injure ourselves. When we hit we irritate the C fibers that send a pain signal and that information reaches the brain. Various research has found that the same centers in the brain are activated even when we experience a traumatic experience, such as the loss of a loved one or a job. In this case, we are talking about mental pain. On the other hand, suffering is defined as a mental struggle that occurs based on our opinion of pain. The fact is that, both phys...

  Depression is defined as a state of heightened sadness, threatened by slow thinking and movements, the presence of vague fear, loss of will, hypochondriac behavior, especially pronounced at the beginning of the day. Depression can be exogenous, as a reaction to difficult experiences, or endogenous, or melancholy. Depression is one of the most common and complicated mental disorders that people fear the most. Although we are not all afraid of going "crazy" and losing control, or falling into a serious psychotic state that will cause us to lose touch with reality, we are all sometimes in a bad mood or depressed. Mood swings are a normal occurrence in humans, however, if depression lasts for a very long time in someone, then it can have certain consequences. It is often the case that people who suffer from depression are not aware that they need medical help or do not want to admit it to themselves. Misunderstanding depression is perhaps one of the biggest problems in solving ...

In almost all anxious people, their only wish is for the condition to simply go away. Anxiety is accompanied by discomfort, rapid and irregular breathing, palpitations, a feeling of tightness in the chest and neck, headache, nausea, dizziness, etc. Constant and elevated anxiety is a symptom of Anxiety Disorder (such as panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, anxiety disorder). disorder). If anxiety has become a chronic condition in a person, it additionally causes unpleasant emotions, such as fear, anger, rage, anxiety, and depressed states due to their anxiety. This is a vicious circle, because the person further delves into his unpleasant emotions and they further cause increased anxiety, the person continues to struggle with this condition, but such behavior is counterproductive and represents the wrong approach. I WANT THIS TO STOP IMMEDIATELY! Anxious people often use this sentence or that sentence goes through their head the moment anxiety occurs. However, anxiety will not ...

In today's blog, I would like to refer to one of the most important and most important characteristics of our character, and that is self-esteem. Do you respect yourself enough? Do you think about how much you value and respect yourself, and how you position yourself in different situations? Do you consider yourself insufficiently valuable about others? Remember the saying that goes, "If you don't respect and love yourself, why do you think the other person will respect and love you?" Think about this saying. WHAT IS COVERED AND WHAT IS REAL SELF-ESTEEM? There is a big difference between covered self-esteem and the right one. Covered self-esteem is just a trap of the ego that wants to impose a sense of superiority over others. This unhealthy self-esteem is counterproductive and is often used to belittle others to elevate oneself. This is the Ego, and you must not fall into its trap. On the other hand, healthy self-esteem is first and foremost how you treat yourself. H...

Meditation is a tool recommended as a healthy way to manage stress. It provides many health benefits, such as reducing stress and frustration, provides relief from physical ailments such as headaches, back pain, and others, and also helps boost immunity. We will discuss in detail the benefits of meditation in the next post. Here we will focus on some basic information related to meditation, and on the most important part, and that is how meditation is performed. BASICS OF MEDITATION Meditation is a technique that is not established and can be performed in many different ways, which allows the one who practices it not to become routine, but can change it as desired. Regardless of the types of meditation, there is a common thread that runs through all types of this technique: - QUIET AND PEACEFUL MIND : Practicing meditation causes your constantly thinking mind to become calmer and quieter than usual. You stop focusing on the stressors you experience every day, and on the life problems, ...

  What is NLP? NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is a science that deals with the study of people who have achieved great success in various areas of life. It is used to help people improve personally and professionally. NLP consists of three parts: - NEURO - refers to our nervous system through which we send and receive information, through our 5 senses. We receive information through our senses, which go further through our nervous system and are sent to our brain which gives them meaning based on when we create our reality. - LINGUISTIC - refers to our language patterns that our brain uses to describe the information we receive from the outside world. Our words affect our attitudes, moods, emotions, and actions. NLP deals with determining which are the words that effectively affect us, our mood, behavior, attitudes, etc. - PROGRAMMING - refers to our programs that control our feelings, behavior, and thinking. The cause-and-effect patterns we use to receive and send information,...

  Each of us wants to have control over our emotions, especially the unpleasant ones. However, most equate this control with resistance or internal struggle with their own emotions. Many people treat unpleasant emotions as enemies and then fight them, divert attention, suppress them, analyze them, enjoy them, which leads to the drama becoming even worse. All these actions that we take because of our unpleasant emotions are just a fight with them, which further leads to the appearance of anxiety, depression, and similar unpleasant states. HOW CAN WE CONTROL OUR EMOTIONS? First of all, you have to understand that emotions are an integral part of life and we cannot squeeze them out or reject them. But that doesn’t mean we have to live in the drama of a lifetime and be constantly under some emotional tension. We can and want to learn to deal with all our emotions so that they are the icing on the cake of our lives, not bad masters. Feelings appear spontaneously, come from our subconsci...

  The first thing I want you to know is that our beliefs are acquired in our earliest childhood, from our birth to our 7-8. years. As very young, we adopt everything we see and hear as truth and it becomes our beliefs. We do not question anything, but we absorb everything like a sponge, which results in us becoming "simply as we are". You must have heard this sentence often "But you know how I'm just like that." Well, you are not "just like that" but you were taught that way in your earliest childhood. The good thing is that these beliefs can change, which of course is not easy, but it is very possible. Beliefs are stored in our subconscious, and the subconscious is the autopilot that controls us for 95% of the day. This is where our consciousness comes into play. We need to be aware of all our limiting beliefs so that we can change them and replace them with better ones. Our beliefs are our subjective truths about us and the world around us. So it is ...

  Every negative obsessive thought is characterized by its persistence, persistence, and constant appearance against our will. These thoughts strongly affect a person's mood, disturb his concentration, demotivate him and give him the feeling that he has no control over himself. In addition to being negative in content, they also act uncontrollably the more a person struggles with them, which leads to even greater frustration. WHAT IS THE REASON WHY OBSESSIVE THOUGHTS ARE SO PERSISTENT? There are two reasons why these thoughts are so strenuous. The first reason is that these thoughts are "colored" by negative affects (emotion), such as anger, rage, fear, guilt, and the like. If these thoughts were not supported by any of these emotions, they would slowly pass through our minds, and we would not even pay attention to them. Emotions are the ones that give them strength and perseverance that a person does not know how to deal with. The second reason is our attention. Because ...

  EXCESSIVE THINKING IS MAINLY CONCERNED BY ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION As part of anxiety disorders and depressive states, a very common occurrence is excessive thinking, which can also be an integral part of unhealthy feelings such as jealousy, anger, guilt, and others. Excessive thinking in itself can lead to aggravation or maintenance of these conditions. Many who have this disorder justify it by equating it with being able to look at things from multiple perspectives and prepare to face potential negative outcomes. In reality, it's not really like that. The outcome mostly comes down to the fact that, from what we have been thinking about so much, it has never and will never happen and it has taken a lot of our time, energy, mental and physical strength. People equate excessive thinking with problem-solving, but there is a difference. The problem to be solved is based on seeing the advantages and disadvantages of possible options, and making the best decision based on the conclusion...

All the circumstances in our lives are almost always a product of ourselves. I believe that each of us is responsible for the life we ​​have. I believe that consciously or unconsciously, we choose and create the life we ​​currently live. We are personally responsible for the current condition we are in, whether it is related to physical health or circumstances. Our beliefs are major and responsible for the quality of life we ​​currently live. You may not or do not want to accept this as the truth. It is much easier for most people to play the role of a victim and to constantly blame someone else, or something else, for being responsible for their lives and not themselves. It is easier to blame the state, the economy, parents, God, destiny, etc. because that way they feel better and don't have to accept responsibility. And accepting responsibility is crucial if you want to change your life. Everyone who has become successful, or anyone who is still unsuccessful, is one hundred perce...

  We all dream of some perfect life that we would like to live, but many do not know and do not understand how to turn that dream they have into their physical reality. Everything you need for that you already have in you, you have all the necessary tools to help you fulfill all your dreams. TOOLS TO HELP YOU FULFILL ALL YOUR DREAMS You must be wondering what tools I mean exactly. These are first of all our thoughts, then words, and our feelings. This sounds very simple, but is it so? Well, it is. It may not be easy at first because you will be doing something completely new to yourself, but with consistent practice and a smart approach, anything can be achieved. With the firm intention of finally living the life, you have always dreamed of, with the determination to stick to that goal, and to truly commit to every tool we are talking about, sooner or later you will live the dream life that has been unattainable for you so far. Every thought we think carries a certain amount of ene...